I'm unaware of any difference in the larval stage (the actual hornworm). When raising them on wheat germ, they are almost turquoise instead of lime green in color, but no sexual dimorphism for the caterpillars that I'm aware of. When adults, the males have thicker antennae. There are also claspers on the abdomens of males, which aren't easy to see on a live moth. If you collect a group, you're bound to get some of both, but I've never taken the time to tinker with raising them. There are usually eggs to be found on the underside of tomato leaves this time of year in my area, though.