KarmaChameleon1337
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Everytime I decide to start something, such as breeding my mealworms for very rare treats, my mother decides it's time to clean my room and throw them in the TRASH because "they're icky". Someone adopt me.
Can't do ANYTHING around here.
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icegecko
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the best thing you can do in these situations is to be really proactive about presentation and cleanliness in keeping feeders. if everything is clean and neat and out of sight, your mother should have no qualms with your feeders. the key here is out of sight. if you can integrate your feeder containers and decorate your room so that they don't stand out, you might be able to avoid having your mother throw feeders out. she can't throw out what she can't see.
Maurer3D
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LOL, I was lucky when I was young my mom didn't touch my room much. You my want to try getting a big Rubbermaid tub and labeling it "Not Trash" then keep things in there that you are trying to raise.
I keep all my Fruit Fly Colonies in a big tub like that to make things easier.
KarmaChameleon1337
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No no get this, they're 100% clean, nowhere in her sight, she just doesn't like the THOUGHT of them in "her" (my dad's) house.
KarmaChameleon1337
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She also decided to move everything I had (No where near a mess, perfectly organized) including misters, dusters, etc, where I have no IDEA where they are, and she says she forgets.
Rant rant rant. I'm buying one of those open doors without code and alarm goes off machines.
Rant rant rant. I'm buying one of those open doors without code and alarm goes off machines.
heartben
New Member
maybe you could just put them in a coffee can and hide them in the kitchen or something. or the garage or somewhere else outside... in a tree or under the steps or something..
maybe behind books or cds or dvds on a shelf assuming you have one deep enough.
there are a million places you could put them, another options to keep her from tossing them is just.. dont have them.
maybe behind books or cds or dvds on a shelf assuming you have one deep enough.
there are a million places you could put them, another options to keep her from tossing them is just.. dont have them.
KarmaChameleon1337
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@heart, I'm actually doing that. I'll buy one of those pink ones from that girly girl store near where I live and spray paint it black.
suzi
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KarmaChameleon1337
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Me too. Seriously I'll go find adoption papers and everything. >_>
sandrachameleon
Chameleon Enthusiast
Her house, her rules. Dont breed things she doesnt want in her house, and you wont have trouble with her throwing them away. Always have permission up front. Try being thankful that you are permitted to have a (in the words of some of my friends) "nasty horrible lizard eating creepy crawly bugs" at all.
edit: I know the above is difficult to stomach. But truly if you put your efforts into persuading her, convincing her to agree to your having something PRIOR to having it, being grateful and appreciative of her needs, even sucking up to her, rather than wasting energy in frustration, you may be happier long run.
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suzi
Avid Member
The voice of reason! Very very true
Maybe you can have a one on one talk with her about it and see if maybe there is some kind of feeder she wouldn't object to
Elizadolots
New Member
Sandra nicely presented the Mom's perspective.
Having a teenage daughter, I understand that it's not always easy for the two sides of that relationship to see eye to eye.
Karma, can you move your feeder colonies to the garage?
I know what I'm about to suggest is probably sacrilege, but I think you need to start a conversation with the woman. Ask her what she needs to make her comfortable. Just getting the main bug groups out of the house might be enough.
Having a teenage daughter, I understand that it's not always easy for the two sides of that relationship to see eye to eye.
Karma, can you move your feeder colonies to the garage?
I know what I'm about to suggest is probably sacrilege, but I think you need to start a conversation with the woman. Ask her what she needs to make her comfortable. Just getting the main bug groups out of the house might be enough.
Eltortu
Established Member
Waaahh!...
KarmaChameleon1337
Avid Member
It's not even her house, and my garage is apart of my house haha. To the housework thing, sure, I can fit in small spaces too, I'm 4'9....
SonTigerPantherCham
New Member
Here is my thought...
This is not the first time you have "ranted" here about the mom ( please note, your words, not mine ok?)
So my thoughts are, if you are old enough maybe you could move out and have your own place? If over 18, you are legal. If you aren't yet, offer to pay "rent" on your room, might get her to see your space a little differently.
if not 18, ultimately it is their house, they pay the bills. But it is your home, I agree trying to talk to her quietly and not defensively might help.
But maybe you just needed to vent, so you didn't end up in an argument with her, then coming here to rant was a good idea!
This is not the first time you have "ranted" here about the mom ( please note, your words, not mine ok?)
So my thoughts are, if you are old enough maybe you could move out and have your own place? If over 18, you are legal. If you aren't yet, offer to pay "rent" on your room, might get her to see your space a little differently.
if not 18, ultimately it is their house, they pay the bills. But it is your home, I agree trying to talk to her quietly and not defensively might help.
But maybe you just needed to vent, so you didn't end up in an argument with her, then coming here to rant was a good idea!
