I have a similar experience with green bananas, except they're easy to catch with the cork flats I put on top of the soil in their bin (gasket sealed and the holes in the lid are doubled screened). They don't climb to escape in my case, they prefer to burrow into the soil. They do take a while to grow, but mine have bred pretty well. I don't use heat to aid in growth and prolifency, just a deep moist bioactive substrate with sphagnum moss, leaf litter, and cork flats on top. I still keep them because resale is good, and my chams have always loved them as special treats! Plus my frog can take the babies, too.
I seem to have the exact opposite experience of you with red runners, I absolutely LOVE them! They're extremely prolific, and all of my chams (past and present, except for one) have these as one of their top favorites! The red seems to motivate them more, not less, like in your case. They're a great "staple", a great cricket alternative, and/or a great thing to try for more variety! I keep them gasket sealed because I live in Houston, where they breed without added heat or substrate (though I've kept them bioactively for a while now). I've never had any males flutter. I'm always careful when taking them out and always wear old tennis shoes when doing so (not that I'm barefoot when handling bugs anyway). If one escapes, I almost never pick it up in time, so the old tennis shoes are on to crush/kill it before it can escape. If legal in their area, people should definitely try these guys if comfortable with them!
I don't even mess with lobster roaches. I've had a few hitchhikers in orders, and they're so fast when climbing and/or running, it's not even funny!
While most people and their chams love dubias, my chams have never liked them, except for the one that didn't like red runners, and he only took adult male dubias. They're extremely slow, almost looking dead when in a feeder, and extremely clumsy. They breed without substrate and without heat for me, plus they don't stink, so they're great for people to at least try if legal in their area.
Edit: none of my other roach colonies stink either, it's just a point on dubias for some reason. The only feeders that have ever stunk for me are crickets when the bins have gone to long without cleaning