military?

[Mredhorse]

It's more or less in my opinion decisions decisions decisions..if he wants to support he wants to support if he is worried about leaving people behind then thats a possible chance you have to take with the military, I've deployed to iraq twice so far in my career. Came home safely..not saying it would be like that or not don't get me wrong but I am grateful everyday I'm still alive. Money is of course good labor is sometimes easy and tough, I'm not 100% for the money..I care about supporting by what we live by freedom..But I love my country and support it 110% and would die for everyone's freedom is how I look at it.

as well as stand by my brothers in arms side to overcome this war. To keep everyone safe in the United States of America

Thanks for your service! That goes for the other Vets and family members here on the forum too.

We all have our reasons for joining and it should never be for someone else.

I went to the Persian Gulf so my boys did not have to worry about Iraq. (did not plan on returning to the U.S. but did)

21 years later,son one, was at the same Kuwait airport. It just so happened to be exactly the same week (21 years ealier) I was at the Kuwait Airport, the difference being he was using it to come home and I was walking through the rubble. (funny)

How old is your BF and what is he doing these days? Maybe that is the reason his dad is leaning toward the service. (Dad might not know what he likes to do, or wants to live life through him) Us parents do weird stuff like that.

Dang! I started gabbing again... (I over do the advice thing because my father wasn't there to help, even though he was alive at the time)

One more question and don't be offended, do either of you support yourselves? < not necessary if you don't want to answer, just gives us a better picture from the fathers point of view. (even though the choice is your BF's to join or not)

 

[Ace]

All i can say as cheesy as it may be

You have to put in your heart into something you feel is right. If his heart isnt in it....then he needs to find something he can put his heart into ,to make a living


I respect military people who are humble....fanatics i don't.

There is more to it than feeling the gratification of serving your country...there is always a dark side.....bigger picture ...

 

[amanda509]

Thanks for your service! That goes for the other Vets and family members here on the forum too.

We all have our reasons for joining and it should never be for someone else.

I went to the Persian Gulf so my boys did not have to worry about Iraq. (did not plan on returning to the U.S. but did)

21 years later,son one, was at the same Kuwait airport. It just so happened to be exactly the same week (21 years ealier) I was at the Kuwait Airport, the difference being he was using it to come home and I was walking through the rubble. (funny)

How old is your BF and what is he doing these days? Maybe that is the reason his dad is leaning toward the service. (Dad might not know what he likes to do, or wants to live life through him) Us parents do weird stuff like that.

Dang! I started gabbing again... (I over do the advice thing because my father wasn't there to help, even though he was alive at the time)

One more question and don't be offended, do either of you support yourselves? < not necessary if you don't want to answer, just gives us a better picture from the fathers point of view. (even though the choice is your BF's to join or not)

dont worry about going overboard on the advice, both of us need it. and i understand parents do crazy things, but his dad is a hypocrite. everything his dad gets mad at him about, there is no reason to be mad about. but i do understand his grandfather was in the navy, but his dad never did anything like that and he's a friggin lawyer now! so his dad confuses me :/

and im not offended at all, we're both 18, but both of us technically live with our parents, even though derek is more accepted into my family more than his. but we could support ourselves if need be. we wanted to wait until after school to move in together. and if he was to get sent away, that would still stand, id stay with my parents until schooling was done and i had my degree and a reliable job, and he was out, and at least starting his schooling if he still wanted to go before we would ever consider being on our own.

 

[chamlover98]

Thanks for your service! That goes for the other Vets and family members here on the forum too.

We all have our reasons for joining and it should never be for someone else.

I went to the Persian Gulf so my boys did not have to worry about Iraq. (did not plan on returning to the U.S. but did)

21 years later,son one, was at the same Kuwait airport. It just so happened to be exactly the same week (21 years ealier) I was at the Kuwait Airport, the difference being he was using it to come home and I was walking through the rubble. (funny)

How old is your BF and what is he doing these days? Maybe that is the reason his dad is leaning toward the service. (Dad might not know what he likes to do, or wants to live life through him) Us parents do weird stuff like that.

Dang! I started gabbing again... (I over do the advice thing because my father wasn't there to help, even though he was alive at the time)

One more question and don't be offended, do either of you support yourselves? < not necessary if you don't want to answer, just gives us a better picture from the fathers point of view. (even though the choice is your BF's to join or not)

you mean my Girlfriend? I don't have one Lol

 

[amanda509]

you mean my Girlfriend? I don't have one Lol

he meant me

 

[pssh]

Tell him to go to school! Get federal financial aid, and any other aid he can. Go to a community college and transfer if he has to. There is a lot of money out there for college kids, you just have to get up and take it.

He doesn't have to join to be successful at life. It is so wrong that his dad is pushing him to do this even though he doesn't want to, but the best you can do is try to support him in making the choice that is right for him (not the both of you.) I understand wanting to stay with him, (I've been with my boyfriend, solidly, since middle school) but like Eliza said a few pages back, you deserve the right to date and experience life without the worries that would come with him joining. It's a strange situation to be put in, but again, just be supportive.

 

[chamlover98]

he meant me

*rolls eyes*

*feels left out*

 

[okiroo]

Havent read thru this thread but this is how i feel-

My dad was in service for 30years as a marine(now VA officer). I loved moveing around the world but it was hard the first time. You get over it and make new friends. it was an experence most people arnt lucky enought to experence and a life style i dearly miss. my family is service based. my grandfather was also a marine and my sister and her husband are now airforce. people have nrought up being killed and whatnot, possible, but pleanty of people dont die. i even venture to say its rare, sep witht he lack of war(but that could happen anytime) any job could be risky tho. driveing can kill you. if he doesnt want to go than fine, but i think all young men shoudl join and serve. i wish my boyfriend would join and i would go aswell. my personal delima i my boyfriend vs. me leaveing and joining(always wanted to). he wants to stay here tho. it's not some easy way of life, take self dicipline and hard work if you want to get anywhere. im proud of my dad (left on 3-4 6+ diployments) and although i missed him when he left i grew up perfectly fine and would wish that sort of life for my own children

 

[amanda509]

*rolls eyes*

*feels left out*

you know..they do have a rolls eyes button

 

[amanda509]

Havent read thru this thread but this is how i feel-

My dad was in service for 30years as a marine(now VA officer). I loved moveing around the world but it was hard the first time. You get over it and make new friends. it was an experence most people arnt lucky enought to experence and a life style i dearly miss. my family is service based. my grandfather was also a marine and my sister and her husband are now airforce. people have nrought up being killed and whatnot, possible, but pleanty of people dont die. i even venture to say its rare, sep witht he lack of war(but that could happen anytime) any job could be risky tho. driveing can kill you. if he doesnt want to go than fine, but i think all young men shoudl join and serve. i wish my boyfriend would join and i would go aswell. my personal delima i my boyfriend vs. me leaveing and joining(always wanted to). he wants to stay here tho. it's not some easy way of life, take self dicipline and hard work if you want to get anywhere. im proud of my dad (left on 3-4 6+ diployments) and although i missed him when he left i grew up perfectly fine and would wish that sort of life for my own children

ive thought about it, and id love to move around with him, but seeing how we arent married, or arent exactly a family, it would be hard. also, i cant go anywhere until im done with my schooling...

 

[okiroo]

ive thought about it, and id love to move around with him, but seeing how we arent married, or arent exactly a family, it would be hard. also, i cant go anywhere until im done with my schooling...

well you have pleanty of time to decide if your graduateing this year. if you really love him you could get married and move off with him(if you LOVE him and he loves you) its takes 3months for bootcamp + a few months to take the tests and train and find out what job your gunna get ect.

 

[amanda509]

well you have pleanty of time to decide if your graduateing this year. if you really love him you could get married and move off with him(if you LOVE him and he loves you) its takes 3months for bootcamp + a few months to take the tests and train and find out what job your gunna get ect.

im already enrolled in an 18 month business administration class starting in the fall :/ i cant go anywhere until that is done. and as much as we would like to marry each other, both our families would look down upon it, so we agreed on waiting until our lives calm down..but maybe if he does go, halfway through his term i could travel with him..by then i should be done with school.