Long story short, I bought a "male" ambilobe, we believe everything the breeder has told us has been false so I would like a second opinion on the sex.
Certainly female and it's unfortunate that you were mislead in your purchase. Have you contacted the breeder? Maybe they will do a partial refund? I'm assuming you don't want to exchange her as you've probably already grown attached.
Do you have any updated pictures. I was going to say male from the very first picture but the others are looking female. I think one more with a good side profile of the tail base would settle it for me.